Transformation

We can only open the door for others to walk through. It is up to them to walk through and change their lives. ~ACN

When we see others in need of changing their lives, so many of us think that we can jump into action and make them change. We seldom see the need to change in ourselves. It is only when we experience a very serious life knock, such as someone passing away, or a robbery or attack on ourselves or when our bodies fail us that we sometimes take notice of it and decide to change our lives. Our motivation is then from the self and not from another. Sometimes we know that someone wants us to change and we make a half-hearted attempt to do so. We do a few things differently for a short while and then slide back into our usual pattern of behaviour, often forgetting what we even bothered to change in the first place or why we made this half-hearted attempt to change.

Be gentle with those in your life who need change for change can be a scary thing to many. We fear stepping away from what we are accustomed to, we fear new beginnings, very seldom seeing that our lives could and most likely will improve so vastly. All in all, we fear failure. And because we live in a state of fear of change, we do our utmost to resist it.

We can open many doors for those in need of change yet we cannot walk through it and make the change for them. It is up to the individual person needing change to step up to the plate and take responsibility for changing their own life. Nothing is more greatly appreciated by one, than when they take ownership and see the results of their own hard work. Most artists would agree with this. When one labour’s so long and so hard on an artwork, then the artist can stand back on completion and admire and cherish what they have achieved. None of us are fully able to comprehend the extent of the emotion experienced whilst in the process of creation. We can only admire, from a distance, the end result of that creation.

Change is not an easy process. We judge ourselves, we second guess ourselves, we beat ourselves up as we battle and fumble as we undergo the process of transformation. If you could consider what a butterfly must endure to emerge as the beautiful creation that it is for a moment; it must first start out as a teeny tiny egg which hatches into a worm. The worm must then spend hours and hours of intense constant labour spinning a cocoon around its little body before it rests within. Inside that little cocoon it transforms into a chrysalis who has to chomp its way out (and we all know just how strong silk is, so it must be a very laborious task for the little chrysalis) emerging at the end of it as a beautiful, colourful butterfly.

The net result of change is a beautiful, awesome soul who has finally come into its own.

Think twice before you try and make someone change. Think of the outcome, think of ways to encourage rather than force your loved one to change. Allow their change to come from within and always be gentle with them as they transform into beauty personified.

In love and light,

Amanda

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