You do not need to be a victim when you have a problem. We all have problems. How you deal with them determines on if you consider yourself a victim or not. ~ ACN
The dictionary describes the word “Victim” as a person who has experienced misfortune and feels helpless to remedy it.
We all experience and encounter problems in our lives. Some experience greater problems than others, some more frequently than others yet we all experience them. Life happens to each one of us and when it does it presents problems for us, sometimes in a good way and sometimes in a severe way and creates an outcome where we have difficulties.
When we encounter problems in our lives, we can choose to react in one of two ways. The first is to face it as a victor, with courage and determination, with dignity and respect and the second to jump into victim mode.
To react as a victim means to abandon all hope. We withdraw into the depths of our beings, shrinking back from the world. We point fingers at those involved in the problem and lay the blame of the outcome at all and sundry refusing to take responsibility for playing any part in the circumstance that led to the outcome. We deny our involvement and live in a state of fear which often includes hating and anger toward those involved. We play the avoidance game, pretending that if we ignore the problem it will simply go away. We sink into a deep and dark depression, unseeing of the footholds in the pit of our dark despair. We run like a bat out of hell, hoping with great hope that we can outrun the problem. All in all we believe that should we do all of this the problem does not exist. We look with sad dog eyes at the world in an attempt to get others to feel sorry for us, to be sympathetic toward us, and cry copious tears all in the hope that someone else will take on the problem for us.
In actuality to act as a victim is pathetic behaviour and should be avoided at all cost.
Now to be the victor on the other hand is to stand up straight and face the problem with courage and grace. As the victor we are able to take responsibility for the problem, claiming ownership to it. We resolve to fix the problem in a methodical, calm and peaceful manner and in so doing learn from the entire experience. We place no blame on others and do not finger point. We are able to calmly dissemble the problem and in a place of calm mind are able to reach a solution. From this standpoint we often find that many other opportunities present themselves to us and we are then able to reach out and grab them walking through new doors to a better life. As a victor we are able to deal with the issue or problem at hand in a state of love, compassion and peace.
The choice to be victim or victor is yours. Which one will you choose?
In love and light,
Amanda
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