When your
world turns upside down, be encouraged that you are never alone
During the
last 8 months my life has turned twice. What an experience. How much was gained
in lessons learnt. How my soul was
touched in such a profound way. Yet I
find myself in a space where I need to find my own normal again.
What is
normal? The dictionary defines normal
as “conforming to the usual standard, type, or custom”. For me, it’s finding a new routine and yes,
these do define our lives as we go about our daily business. It’s about finding a new way of doing things
and of doing things I’ve not done before.
When circumstances
change in our lives we can do one of two things. We can sit back a wallow in our self-pity at
what was and is now gone or we can step
up to the plate and find new adventures to lead into the world, a place where
we can grow and have fun in doing so.
This does
not mean that we do not have to grieve what was. On the contrary in finding our new normal, we
continue to grieve, to experience the emotions of loss and pain, the heaviness
of heart and soul. There is no point in
pushing feelings of grief into the back ground or back sacking it. What would we achieve in that apart from feelings
of despair as the load becomes heavier to carry. Grief is unique to each individual and none
should be judged for the amounts of time they make to take grieve or the way in
which we grieve.
Whichever way
we choose to grieve, there comes a time when we raise our heads to the sun and
find our new normal again.
In finding
your new normal, you may find yourself wanting to embark on a journey of doing
different things. You may choose to draw,
paint, or sculpt, or take up pottery or a form of exercise you’ve not tried
before. You may decide to join a club
and enlarge your social circle. You may
decide that to find a path you need to declutter your environment or home. You
may even decide to take up chartable work of some sort. You may also decide that changing, for
example, the route you take to work will lead you to your new normal. The opportunities are endless and as you
desire.
No matter
the way you choose, you are sending your life in a different direction that
will bring you to your next experience you need to have in order for your soul
to continue to learn.
There may
be times, days even, where you feel that you are all alone in the process of
finding your new normal. Physically,
yes, you may be yet you never are entirely alone. Always, without question or
doubt is the presence of your Divine, the celestial realm and the spiritual
energies of loved ones who have passed into the light. They comfort and guide you constantly as
their desire is to see you happy and filled with love and light as they desire
your acceptance of what was and attain peace with it. You are loved beyond measure by those who walk
quietly beside you. Allow yourself to
feel that love, draw it into your being and be nourished by its comfort to
you.
In finding
your new normal, listen to your own voice and follow your gut. This is your normal, uniquely made for you by
you. There is no written rule that
dictates you should do exactly as others say.
No, do what is right for you, despite what other may say. This is your life, this is your normal. Yet never forget to love yourself, to be
gentle with yourself, to be compassionate and kind to yourself throughout the process
of finding your new normal.
May your
journey to your new normal be and adventure filled with great joy and grace and
may it lead to you to your place of peace within your soul.
In love and
light,
Amanda
© Amanda C Nicolin 2015
Permission
is granted to share this article freely on the condition that the author is
credited.
