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Monday 3 August 2015

Finding My New Normal




When your world turns upside down, be encouraged that you are never alone




During the last 8 months my life has turned twice. What an experience. How much was gained in lessons learnt.  How my soul was touched in such a profound way.  Yet I find myself in a space where I need to find my own normal again. 

What is normal?    The dictionary defines normal as “conforming to the usual standard, type, or custom”.   For me, it’s finding a new routine and yes, these do define our lives as we go about our daily business.  It’s about finding a new way of doing things and of doing things I’ve not done before.

When circumstances change in our lives we can do one of two things.  We can sit back a wallow in our self-pity at what was and  is now gone or we can step up to the plate and find new adventures to lead into the world, a place where we can grow and have fun in doing so.

This does not mean that we do not have to grieve what was.  On the contrary in finding our new normal, we continue to grieve, to experience the emotions of loss and pain, the heaviness of heart and soul.  There is no point in pushing feelings of grief into the back ground or back sacking it.  What would we achieve in that apart from feelings of despair as the load becomes heavier to carry.    Grief is unique to each individual and none should be judged for the amounts of time they make to take grieve or the way in which we grieve.

Whichever way we choose to grieve, there comes a time when we raise our heads to the sun and find our new normal again.

In finding your new normal, you may find yourself wanting to embark on a journey of doing different things.  You may choose to draw, paint, or sculpt, or take up pottery or a form of exercise you’ve not tried before.  You may decide to join a club and enlarge your social circle.  You may decide that to find a path you need to declutter your environment or home. You may even decide to take up chartable work of some sort.  You may also decide that changing, for example, the route you take to work will lead you to your new normal.  The opportunities are endless and as you desire.

No matter the way you choose, you are sending your life in a different direction that will bring you to your next experience you need to have in order for your soul to continue to learn. 

There may be times, days even, where you feel that you are all alone in the process of finding your new normal.   Physically, yes, you may be yet you never are entirely alone. Always, without question or doubt is the presence of your Divine, the celestial realm and the spiritual energies of loved ones who have passed into the light.   They comfort and guide you constantly as their desire is to see you happy and filled with love and light as they desire your acceptance of what was and attain peace with it.  You are loved beyond measure by those who walk quietly beside you.  Allow yourself to feel that love, draw it into your being and be nourished by its comfort to you. 

In finding your new normal, listen to your own voice and follow your gut.  This is your normal, uniquely made for you by you.  There is no written rule that dictates you should do exactly as others say.  No, do what is right for you, despite what other may say.   This is your life, this is your normal.  Yet never forget to love yourself, to be gentle with yourself, to be compassionate and kind to yourself throughout the process of finding your new normal.

May your journey to your new normal be and adventure filled with great joy and grace and may it lead to you to your place of peace within your soul. 

In love and light,
Amanda




© Amanda C Nicolin 2015
Permission is granted to share this article freely on the condition that the author is credited.

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